I recently shared a few hobbies and talents that I used to be involved in and how much I have regretted giving up some some of them. *Cue small violin for all those violin lessons that are now going to waste.*
In thinking about the type of life I want to live, I had to figure out how to live without regretting past decisions. Let me share my findings with you.
This year I am making space for and inviting New opportunities and advancing to the Next level. I mean this figuratively and literally; first starting with my move to a new space.
What's the first step in moving to a new place? Reviewing what you have and clearing out all the old junk that no longer serves you. What is it about having to put your whole life in boxes that really puts life in perspective? Either way, I realized that the first step to living without regret is to assess it and clear it out. Obviously this is easier said than done, so here are few questions I used to guide me when thinking about my regrets:
How did that thing I regret make me feel? (embarrassed, angry, etc.)
Is this a pattern of behavior I have?
Did I make my decision based on all the information I had at the time?
Did I have full control of the outcome?
How can I learn or grow from this?
How does holding on to this help or hurt me now?
Now if this is going to work, you have to be honest with yourself about these answers. Once that's done, it becomes clear how much importance and energy you might've put into this one thing that you did, or said, or thought was your fault. Energy that you could've put towards going after some of those goals you've had written down for the past- we don't have to say how long. The point is-
If you move forward with past regrets, you'll end up carrying a whole lot of baggage. Where you're going, there's no space for that.
So clear it out and make space for what you really want to invite into your life.
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